Wednesday, August 26, 2020

225 relationship questions

https://datingatadistance.com/long-distance-relationship-questions/#interesting-experiences

Looking for long-distance relationship questions to liven up your video call dates?

These 225 long-distance relationship questions are designed to help you spark deeper conversations about your everyday life, childhood memories, dreams for the future, and many more topics.

Learning about each other ties into the primary purpose of dating, so asking meaningful questions is one of the best ways to make the most of your time apart.

How To Use These 225 Long-Distance Relationship Questions
 

Let’s be real: even marathon-callers can’t conquer 225 questions in a single video call. Keep track of which long-distance relationship questions you’ve answered. 

A few topics (Theology & Doctrine, Personal Faith, and Local Church) are specifically designed to foster deep conversations between believers in Christ. However, if you’re not a Christian, you’ll still benefit from at least 180 long-distance relationship questions.

Use the menu below to navigate between different topics.

Topics for Long-Distance Relationship Questions
 
Travel
Childhood Memories
Interesting Experiences
Everyday Life
Family Relationships
Friendships
Personality
College & Career
Philosophy
Community Involvement
Theology & Doctrine
Personal Faith
Local Church
Travel
 
What makes a good travel companion?
Have you been to another country? What did you appreciate about the culture there?
When you travel, do you prefer to do touristy activities or go off the beaten path?
What’s the most interesting animal you’ve seen in the wild?
When have you needed to use survival skills?
Have you ever forgotten to pack something really important?
What natural landscapes do you love most? (Mountains, ocean, forest, etc.)
Do you plan a detailed itinerary before traveling or do you jump in the car and go?
If you could visit anywhere, where would you go and what would you do?
Where’s the highest place you’ve ever stood?
What’s the most beautifully-designed building you’ve ever seen?
Do you speak any other languages? How did you learn them?
If you could learn any language instantly, which language would you choose and why?
Have you ever been on a short-term mission trip? What did you do?
Would you move overseas short-term or permanently? Why or why not?
What’s your favorite mode of transportation and why? (Car, plane, boat, bicycle, etc.)
What national parks and major landmarks have you visited? What did you like about them?
Did your family often take vacations when you were growing up?
What’s the key to an awesome road trip?
What part of God’s creation leads you to worship most frequently?
Which country’s culture would be the most difficult to adapt to?
Are you an urban dweller or a nature lover? Why?
What are the features of an ideal place to live?
How should a person prepare for moving overseas?
How important is learning another language?
 

Childhood Memories
 
Did you break any bones as a kid? What was the story?
What was the worst part about middle school?
Who was your favorite high school teacher, and how did they impact you?
What’s one achievement you worked really hard for?
Did you have birthday parties as a kid? Which one was your favorite and why?
What sports did you play growing up?
Have you had any near-death experiences?
What was your neighborhood like? Did you play with the kids next door?
What was the best game you made up as a kid?
What’s your all-time favorite Christmas present?
What was the coolest Lego creation you ever built?
What toy did you think you would never outgrow?
Did you ever get in trouble in elementary school?
What are your best sleepover memories?
How did you handle the dentist’s office as a kid?
What was your favorite book series as a kid?
What chores did you love and hate?
Who taught you how to drive?
How did your driving test go?
If you could change the meaning of your name, what would it be?


Interesting Experiences
 
Have you ever gotten stuck in an elevator?
What’s the longest you’ve waited in line for something?
What are the worst weather conditions you’ve ever driven in?
What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made as a leader, and how did you learn from it?
What’s the worst haircut you’ve ever had?
What’s the most satisfying meal you’ve ever eaten?
Have you ever gotten in trouble with the law?
Would you ever run for an elected government position?
Would you become an astronaut if you had the chance?
When was a time you got really dirty or muddy? What happened?
What’s something you regret purchasing?
If you were to write a book, what genre would it be?
What’s the best surprise you’ve ever received?
What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ordered on Amazon?
Would you move back to the place you grew up in?
Did your parents ever leave you behind at a store?
What’s the best board game you’ve ever played?


Everyday Life
 
How skilled are you at keeping plants alive?
Why is your favorite pair of pants your favorite?
What’s the most dominant color in your wardrobe and why?
How do you react if your morning routine gets messed up?
How do your music choices influence your daily emotions and vice versa?
What elements of a store or online shop make you want to return?
What’s the most complicated meal you’ve made and how did you learn to make it?
Do you keep a budget? Is it helpful?
Are you a saver or a spender?
Where is your favorite coffee shop and why do you love it?
How do you usually hear about the latest news? (podcasts, newspaper, Facebook)
What books have greatly impacted your thinking?
What are you currently reading?
Do you care about how many unread emails you have?
What gives someone’s home an inviting atmosphere?
What’s an item you don’t like to share with other people?
How often do you write and receive letters?
What’s the most thought-provoking podcast you’ve heard recently?
Do you have any interesting stories from odd jobs?
What’s the secret to becoming an excellent storyteller?


Family Relationships
 
How would you describe what makes your family special?
What are your siblings like? What makes each one unique?
How close are you with your siblings, and do you wish you were closer?
What do you respect and love about each of your parents?
What lesson are you most thankful your parents taught you?
How similar are you to your parents’ personalities?
What do you wish your parents did differently?
Are your parents content with where they are and what they’re doing?
Who are your favorite relatives?
Were/are you close with your grandparents?
Where is your family originally from, and how much of that culture has your family retained?
Does your family make any special heritage foods? What’s the process?
How does your family celebrate holidays?
What’s your favorite meal to eat at your parents’ house and why?
How can I pray for your family?
 

Friendships
 
Who knows you better than you know yourself?
Who do you go to with computer problems?
Are small or large groups more life-giving to you?
Who is the happiest person you know, and why?
Who always makes you laugh?
Do you keep in touch with your high school friends, and will you continue to?
Do you enjoy making new friends?
Does hosting people make you stressed or excited?
Is it hard for you to maintain long-distance friendships
What friends of yours do you think I should get to know more?
How many people really, truly know you?
Who’s someone you’d like to become friends with?
How have your friends influenced who you are?
What’s the best movie to watch with a group of friends?
Do friends always make good roommates?
Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or family member?


Personality
 
What are you most passionate about in life?
What times of day do you have the most energy?
Do you make decisions based on emotions or logic?
How accurate are personality tests?
How do you feel about singing around other people?
What types of surprises do you enjoy?
What are five simple things that bring you joy?
Who do you feel comfortable crying with?
How do you destress after a long day?
When was the last time you got really angry?
What do you do when you’re sad?
What’s comforting to you when you’re sick?
What are signs you’re tired or stressed?
How many hugs per day do you need to survive?
In your entire life, when have you felt most loved?
Which animal most closely represents your personality?
Do you like to work with your hands?
Do you prefer buying things new or used?
What will you splurge on?
What are your political leanings?
What political topics are you passionate about?
What are my strengths and weaknesses? What are yours?
How are our personalities alike? How are we different?
How do our personalities complement one another?
What characteristics cause us to clash sometimes?
Since we started dating, how has each of us changed for the better?
 

College & Career
 
When you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?
What’s the most interesting college class you’ve taken?
What’s learning style and how do you study most effectively?
What’s your favorite study spot on campus and why?
What helps you survive finals week?
How much does the “college experience” matter?
Looking back, would you choose to attend the same college?
How have you changed during college?
Do you plan to stay involved as an alumni?
How did you decide to pursue your major/career?
What skills and gifts has God given you?
How confident are you that you’ll stay in this field?
What’s a fallback career for you, and why isn’t it your first choice?
What’s your biggest career-related fear?
Would you ever work for a nonprofit?
Would you start your own business?
What do you hope to achieve by age 40?
What part of your job are you most passionate about?


Philosophy
 
Why do we pursue happiness, and what’s the key to having it?
Where do you personally find your sense of purpose?
Why do we feel guilt and shame?
What’s your deepest regret?
Why are humans afraid to die?
What happens when you die?
What sets apart the major world religions?
What is truth, and how do you find it?
Why does evil exist?
What is faith?
What’s your religious background?
Who and what has influenced your thinking about religion most?
How did the universe begin?
Why do humans exist?
What type of health is most important: emotional, spiritual, physical, or mental?
How do you decide who is worthy of trust?


Community Involvement
 
What social injustices make you angry?
What’s your perspective on the best and worst ways to help people in poverty?
If you were to advocate for one social cause, what would you support?
Do you enjoy spending time with kids and the elderly?
What’s your favorite organization you’ve volunteered with?
If you had a million dollars, what charities would you support?
What do you think of the trend for businesses to focus on “social good”?
What responsibility do we have to care for the environment?
If you could start a nonprofit, what would you focus on?
How have community organizations helped you?
What difficult experiences of yours help you relate to others in their time of need?


Theology & Doctrine
 
What’s our purpose as humans?
What is required for a person to be saved?
Why did Jesus come to earth?
Why does God allow suffering?
What happens to people who don’t hear about Christ?
How do you distinguish between primary (essential) and secondary doctrine?
Where do you fall on the Armenian/Calvinist scale?
What do you think about creation and evolution?
How are humans different from animals?
What makes a “good” church?
What do you believe the Bible says about the roles of men and women in the church and in the home?
How should the Bible guide our financial decisions, like debt and building wealth?
What doctrine is most difficult for you to understand?
What resources have helped you grow in knowledge of the Lord?
What theological issues have you changed your position on?
What characteristics of God are most attractive to you?
Which characteristics of God are harder for you to accept?
How would you describe the purpose and goal of missions?


Personal Faith
 
How did you become a follower of Jesus?
Why do you follow Jesus?
How has your life changed since you met Jesus?
How would you share the gospel in your own words?
How have you seen God’s faithfulness during difficult seasons?
What have you been reading in the Bible lately?
How has God increased your joy in Him in recently?
How can I encourage you in your walk with the Lord?
How does our relationship display the gospel and glorify God?
Do you know your spiritual gifts? If so, how do you use them?
What’s your favorite book of the Bible?
What’s one passage of the Bible you don’t understand yet?
Who has influenced your spiritual growth the most?
What are you thankful for this week?
How can I pray for you?


Local Church
 
Why are you a part of your church?
What do you value most in your church?
How has God encouraged or convicted you through your church community?
Who’s an older believer you respect at your church?
Have you ever been mentored or mentored someone?
How do you feel about different styles of worship music?
Where do you enjoy serving at your church?
How would you describe your church to someone who’s never gone before?

Tuesday, January 05, 2016

7 Habits of Successful and Fit People

Obtained from The Active Times, by Jesse Jackson posted on 10/23/2015

7 Habits of Successful and Fit People

You’ve heard that being fit is all about "the lifestyle," and not the quick fix, so today I’d like to give you a glimpse into the habits that fit people follow on a regular basis.

These seven habits are held by people who are successfully fit. In other words, the people who have learned to maintain their fitness and good health for the long run.

1. They See Each Day with Perspective

Fail to meet your fitness goals today? Move on. Tomorrow is another day to make smarter decisions. When you wake up, rededicate yourself to your fitness goals without beating yourself about whatever mistakes you made in the past. After all, you can’t change what you did yesterday. All you can control is right now, so get to it!

2. They Know Their Bodies

When you finish a workout, you should feel good. If you don’t, then something needs to change. Either your diet or routine is throwing you off. Fit people know how everything they do affects their body and they take steps to avoid the things that don’t allow them to feel and perform their best. Learn how your body responds and care for it accordingly.

3. They Find Ways Around the Reasons

If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t quite get fit, it may be your proclivity for caving to pressure. And that pressure may be self-induced. Fit people do not give into excuses for why they shouldn’t exercise. Quite the contrary — they are continually finding reasons why they should hit the gym and find pockets of time to do it, even if the trip to the gym is shorter than usual.

4. They Eat and Sleep Well

Study after study has shown the benefit of eating whole, unprocessed foods. It provides energy and strength, helps you feel full throughout the day, and makes your time in the gym as fruitful as possible. Getting good sleep is equally as important, as it keeps all your bodily systems in rhythm. Put these two fit activities together and you’re well on your way to optimal fitness.

5. They Track Progress

For some, keeping tabs on health progress is about as exciting as watching paint dry. Once you get into the routine, however, you will become a believer in the power of tracking your progress. Tracking serves to both reward and motivate you, as you see that the countless hours in the gym and smart food choices lead to a healthier weight and greater strength — aka, better overall fitness and health.

6. They Think During Exercise

It can be easy to mindlessly run on a treadmill at the gym if you’re not careful. Just remember that fit people don’t usually do this. They’re very intentional about everything they do at the gym. This means if you want to be fit, you should put some brainpower into what you include in your workout and how you perform each repetition. This allows you to get maximum benefit from your gym time and reduces the risk of injury.

7. They Lean on a Trainer

The final thing fit people do is rely on someone with lots of know-how in the realm of fitness. This is why my clients have such a high success rate in achieving their goals — because I make sure that they stick with it! I have a sincere interest in their overall health and well-being and know how to help them reach goals that can seem so far away when you’re trying to achieve them on your own.

Friday, January 30, 2015

COACHING Being Experienced Doesn’t Automatically Make You a Great Mentor by Andy Molinsky


Coaching and mentoring is more popular than ever — and for good reason. As individuals progress in their jobs and careers, they’re constantly challenged to build their skills and act outside their comfort zones. Timid executives are called upon to learn to deliver motivational speeches; conflict-avoidant managers need to learn to deliver bad news; and mild-mannered job seekers need to pitch and promote themselves at networking events. And mentoring doesn’t just happen in traditional corporate settings. It also abounds in educational, religious, athletic, and nonprofit worlds as well, where deeply experienced individuals become coaches and mentors to help others with less experience get on the fast track to success.

Or at least that’s the hope. The reality, I’m afraid, is much more of a mixed bag, as often coaching does more harm than good. The problem lies in trusting that experience alone can make you a good coach. What I’ve observed watching coaches and mentors — and even coaching young professionals and executives myself — is that there can actually be a liability of experience when it comes to coaching. As we take on the roles of coaches or mentors, we must be aware of how our experience can hold others back, or else it can lead to negative results and frustrating relationships.

The first liability of experience has to do with emotion. As coaches and mentors, we’re typically chosen for our experience — which is a good thing. But that experience can also be a liability when it means we’re far removed from the actual experience of learning challenging new skills. People can really struggle when trying to master new skills. They can feel anxious, self-conscious, embarrassed, and even frustrated and angry. It can take a delicate touch and keen insight to give the right advice, intervene in a timely manner, offer the right words of wisdom and encouragement, and really understand how to nurture a trainee’s sense of confidence. But if you haven’t been there in a while and you can’t empathize with your trainees’ experience, you can miss this emotional side of skill building, which is a critical part of the process.

Moreover, as a deeply experienced mentor, you can also fail on an emotional front by not being able or willing to express your own vulnerabilities around learning challenging new tasks. In a mentor or coaching relationship, individuals want their experienced counterpart to be able to empathize with their experiences. They want to hear that you have struggled — and that you understand what they’re going through. This helps build a connection between you and “normalize” the challenges they’re experiencing. But as a mentor, if you’re too fixated on expressing an image of expertise and not exposing your own vulnerabilities, you can miss a critical opportunity to connect with your clients.

In addition to these emotional barriers, experienced mentors and coaches often have unrealistic expectations about how learning typically occurs. Since they are so far removed from the experience of learning new skills, these individuals generally forget that success isn’t immediate. When learning a challenging new skill, people often have very uneven results. For example, someone I worked with from a different country learning to interview in the United States was very successful in her initial attempts, and as her mentor, I was extremely pleased — for her and, I have to admit, for myself! But as she inevitably struggled in subsequent attempts, I found myself frustrated, noting in my mind these next attempts as “failures” and wondering why she was now having issues when the early attempts had been so positive. I’m certain now that this frustration and disappointed “leaked” into my conversations; this didn’t help the person I was working with and created a tense relationship.

Although they may be fleeting, it’s critical to celebrate these early achievements when they happen. Many mentors (myself included) often focus on “what’s next” without stopping to actually celebrate and appreciate how much someone has accomplished, even if that accomplishment is a small step. This failure to celebrate small wins can cause mentors to miss a valuable opportunities to build their trainee’s self-confidence, which is often just as critical as the more traditional skill building process.

Finally, a last trap that experienced mentors can fall into is that of unfair comparisons. Who among us has not compared one employee to another, one student to another, or even one child to another? Comparisons are a temptation we often can’t avoid, but in the case of coaching, they can be damaging. When we compare one employee to another — or even to ourselves — we can end up missing evidence of actual progress, marking one person as a “failure” and another as a “success,” when the reality might be that the first person has actually made progress in other, more subtle ways. By falling in the trap of comparison, we are potentially missing important details in the experiences of the people we’re actually trying to help.

As mentors, we all want to use our deep experience and expertise to help the people we’re working with. And by paying attention to the potential downside of this experience and managing it appropriately, we can deliver on that promise.

Andy Molinsky is an Associate Professor of Organizational Behavior at the Brandeis International Business School. He is the author of the book Global Dexterity: How to Adapt Your Behavior across Cultures without Losing Yourself in the Process (HBR Press, 2013). Follow Andy on twitter at@andymolinsky.

Saturday, January 24, 2015

Resume building tips with example

http://www.businessinsider.com/why-this-is-an-excellent-resume-2013-11?IR=T&

Will be useful as reference.

Monday, January 19, 2015

Tips from a straight A student for aspiring individuals

In posting this I do hope that I am able to achieve much more in anything I work for. Focus!

http://www.daniel-wong.com/2015/01/14/straight-a-student/